I realized too late I was on speaker phone

Dear Amy: More and more people seem to use their speaker phone when they’re on personal calls.

This makes it very difficult to have any comfortably “private” conversations, because very often you don’t know the phone is on speaker until someone in the room replies to something you thought you were discussing privately!

I’ve asked and re-asked that they let me know when my calls are being broadcast.

The answer I get most often is: “We have no secrets here” or, “When we get to talking about private things, I turn it off.”

That’s fine for them, but it doesn’t help me.

All too often, I have to think back on our conversation to assure myself that nothing untoward was discussed before realizing I was likely sharing my private thoughts with brothers, sisters, mates, the dog or cat.

Please, what more can I do to stop this great invasion of my personal privacy?

– Angry and Frustrated

Dear Angry: Some people reflexively use their speaker because they can’t hear phone calls well unless they do.

You can usually tell if your call is being broadcast by a somewhat echoing sound on the other end – or of course if the other person’s dog barks when you say its name.

It is considered common courtesy to immediately tell someone if their call is on speaker. In your case, you should assume that you are always being broadcast, and so you should be extremely judicious with any comments you make.

Technology has made it almost impossible to maintain a completely private utterance. Texts can be screenshot and shared, emails can be forwarded and broadcast far and wide, and videos of anyone demanding to see the manager will go viral.

Perhaps this will usher in a surprising consequence – more judicious behavior, as well as a renewed respect for privacy – both yours and others’.

Dear Amy: My uncle has four daughters, each about two years apart in age. His oldest daughter never really fit in. Their mom obsessed over the three younger girls and mostly ignored her eldest.

As adults, the three younger sisters learned from a drunken aunt that their dad isn’t the oldest sister’s biological father. It turns out their mom was pregnant with her when she met her husband (in a bar).

The daughters are all now in their 50s, and for decades everyone in the family has known – except the oldest sister.

I’ve always believed that someone should tell her. Her father and sisters have said it wasn’t their secret to tell – it was her mom’s, who died two years ago.

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