DEAR ABBY: My grandmother and I are very shut. She is 83 and tremendous impartial. She loves maintaining busy and is all the time operating round city.
I would like your recommendation on how you can get by means of to her.
She has all the time pushed like a “cowboy.” She speeds and is impatient on the highway. If she sees somebody jaywalking, she’ll velocity as much as “scare them,” as she places it. It’s harmful and worrisome.
I’ve informed her many occasions that she’s driving dangerously, however her reply is that she’s by no means gotten into an accident, so why would she now?
Her agility and reflexes are declining as she’s getting old, and I’m scared she is going to harm somebody or herself if she retains driving this manner.
How can I get her to take severely this plea to drive extra safely?
— SCARED IN CANADA
DEAR SCARED: In some jurisdictions in the USA, a driver could possibly be charged with an tried vehicular assault even when the intent was to “scare” a pedestrian. Seek the advice of an legal professional accustomed to the car codes in Canada and ask if that is additionally true there.
As a result of her judgment is so poor, your aggressively driving grandmother shouldn’t be behind the wheel.
Whether or not she is prepared to confess it or not, at 83 her response time has slowed down. What she fails to think about is that not all pedestrians react the identical when a automotive barrels towards them. Whereas some may leap out of the best way, others might “freeze” and be badly injured or killed.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a divorced man in my 60s.
Twelve years in the past, a neighbor lady who I’m drawn to popped into my home to have a smoke get away on my again deck. When she arrived, I used to be within the bathe. She got here in like she all the time did (she had permission) and headed towards the deck. She took two steps and froze, as a result of at that very same second I got here out of the toilet. I used to be bare.
I froze as she checked out me. Abby, she appeared me straight within the eye, after which her gaze dropped to my groin. It stayed there for about two seconds, then she gave me a smile, turned away and went out on my deck like nothing had occurred.
I can’t overlook that day. My coronary heart was pounding the best way it does the primary time you meet somebody.
She was, and nonetheless is, married. That’s why I didn’t method her, though I type of want I had.
I haven’t been with a lady since my divorce 16 years in the past, which can be why I nonetheless give it some thought.
We’re nonetheless buddies and nothing like that has occurred since — though I want it will occur tomorrow.
That is the primary time I’ve confided this to anybody. We by no means speak about that heart-pounding day. What do you recommend?
— HIDDEN FEELINGS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR HIDDEN: I recommend you get again in that bathe and switch the chilly water on full blast. My subsequent suggestion is to begin relationship websites as a result of I believe you’re greater than prepared.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
