DEAR ABBY: My finest buddy “Carla” and I haven’t spoken for a number of years, which breaks my coronary heart.
Her son was getting married. The costume was night cocktail apparel. The venue was an hour and a half from the place I dwell. I don’t drive. I used to be having monetary difficulties and was fearful in regards to the apparel and transportation to the venue.
I suggested Carla that I had no solution to get to the marriage and to Uber to the venue would value nicely over $200.
I hoped I may trip along with her. The household had rooms on the resort the place the marriage was being held. I hoped she’d supply that I may go along with her and keep the night time along with her on the resort.
She didn’t supply, so I wasn’t in a position to attend.
Carla didn’t return my calls and hasn’t spoken to me since.
We had been shut pals for 25 years. She has since moved out of state. I miss her terribly.
In any case this time, would it not be fallacious to contact her once more, or ought to I simply let it go? I’ve been upset in regards to the state of affairs for years. I’d love your opinion.
— MISSING MY FRIEND IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR MISSING: Weddings may be difficult affairs, and it’s probably that Carla was harassed and distracted due to the variety of company and all of the actions associated to the marriage on the resort. To have anticipated her to give you transportation and share her room with you’ll have been considered presumptuous.
If you need to listen to her facet of this and acquire some closure, by all means, attain out. However since you at the moment are so geographically distant, don’t anticipate to resurrect the connection you had along with her.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married for 44 years, and we now have a married son and one grandson.
My husband and I moved nearer to our son and daughter-in-law 5 years in the past. A few times a 12 months, my husband jogs my memory that I “ruined his life” by forcing him to maneuver nearer to our grandson.
On prime of that, he dislikes our son’s mother-in-law, one thing he has made clear to me. He doesn’t need to attend vacation dinners if the mother-in-law is there. (Happily, our daughter-in-law will not be conscious that he dislikes her mom.)
I’m bored with worrying about whether or not he’ll attend our grandson’s sports activities actions or occasions if the opposite grandmother is there. At this level, I’m really contemplating divorce so I received’t be so depressing.
Any recommendation can be appreciated.
— FATIGUED IN FLORIDA
DEAR FATIGUED: Until you hogtied your husband, he should have agreed to maneuver nearer to your son and his household.
Is the one motive he’s depressing this dislike of his DIL’s mom, or is it that he’s separated from his pals? If it’s the previous, go with out your husband to your grandson’s occasions and let him keep dwelling. If it’s greater than that, maybe it could be higher for him to return to the neighborhood through which he was extra snug.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
