DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been married for 3 years. Most of that point, it has been good.
Six months in the past, we acquired some wonderful information: We expect a baby! This was a miracle. We had been struggling to conceive, and I had nearly given up hope that it might ever occur.
My downside is, when my husband and I began relationship, my husband and my brother turned quick buddies. At first, I used to be thrilled that the person I cherished bought alongside so nice with my household. However ever for the reason that information of our being pregnant, they’ve grow to be nearly inseparable.
They textual content consistently, and it appears nearly each weekend they’re taking a looking journey or going to the casinos.My husband says he’s simply making an attempt to have some enjoyable earlier than the infant comes alongside.
Am I fallacious to really feel he needs to be spending extra time with me, the pregnant mom of his future youngster? He’s an important supplier and a loving husband when he’s current, however I can’t assist however really feel uncared for.
One night, we have been sitting on the sofa watching TV and I occurred to get a glimpse of his telephone. I observed he was texting my brother (as common), however then I noticed the textual content from my brother: “Goodnight babe,” with a coronary heart emoji! I didn’t imply to snoop, however I used to be shocked and couldn’t unsee this. I instantly requested what was occurring, and he very defensively advised me it was an inside joke and that I shouldn’t be studying his texts over his shoulder.
I really feel loopy for even considering what I’m considering, however may one thing be occurring between my brother and my husband? I don’t even know learn how to start to confront this challenge, and I’m afraid if I ask my husband point-blank, he’ll mislead my face.
I really feel misplaced and betrayed. Please assist.
— CRESTFALLEN IN COLORADO
DEAR CRESTFALLEN: As thrilled as you might be about this being pregnant, your husband could also be much less so. In reality, he might regard the approaching arrival of his youngster as a door closing on having a life.
There are straight males (“men’s men”) preferring the corporate of males over that of girls.
Since you are afraid to confront your husband about what you noticed, have an in-person discuss along with your brother and ask him why he despatched a coronary heart emoji to your husband.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband for eight years. He misplaced his mother 22 years in the past.
Ever since her cremation, he has stored her ashes in the lounge. It scares me as a result of I consider in ghosts.
I do know it’s arduous to let go of our expensive ones. (I misplaced my very own mother a number of years in the past, so I do know the sensation.) How can I persuade him to take the ashes out of the home or put them within the floor with out hurting him emotionally?
— SPOOKED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR SPOOKED: Honey, in case your late mother-in-law is coming again to hang-out you, she is going to do it no matter the place her ashes are situated.
Sure, your husband is having bother letting go of the remnants of his mom, however he’s hurting nobody. She might “visit” you sooner for those who push her out from below your roof.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
