DEAR ABBY: My brother’s daughter “Alyssa,” an solely youngster, is on the kidney transplant record.
My brother and I haven’t spoken for 10 years, primarily due to how poorly he handled our late dad and mom.
Once I had my DNA examined, I discovered that he had fathered one other youngster. The data and information this lady (“Bree”) has supplied ring true and are very plausible. I’ve little question Bree is his daughter.
She had some questions associated to well being points as a result of she has kids of her personal.
Sadly, my irresponsible brother turned his again on her, and she or he doesn’t wish to pursue a relationship with him or with me.
Ought to I proceed to honor her request, or inform her about her half-sister who wants the transplant?
— INVOLVED AUNT IN FLORIDA
DEAR AUNT: In the event you assume it’d assist Alyssa, inform Bree about Alyssa’s want for a kidney transplant. There’s, nevertheless, no assure that Bree’s kidney can be a match.
Don’t be stunned if Bree responds negatively (or under no circumstances), contemplating her lack of a relationship along with her father or the remainder of your loved ones. I want you luck in your search.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in a textual content relationship for almost a yr. I name it a textual content relationship as a result of we talk solely by means of texting.
As a result of I’m not a video chat particular person, it doesn’t trouble me that we don’t Zoom. Moreover, the few instances he has tried to contact me through video, we simply don’t appear to attach.
Despite the fact that our communication is strictly through textual content, now we have fashioned this bond the place we’re very in tune with each other. He is aware of once I’m comfortable or unhappy and want cheering up, and vice versa. All of the issues you could possibly need in a relationship, we appear to have.
He travels lots due to his job, so I don’t see him in particular person. Once more, that’s not an issue for me.
My downside is, although he has rather more cash than I’ll ever have, he usually asks me to ship him cash principally to play video games whereas he’s away. I begin out by saying I can’t assist, however then I give in.
By the best way, I by no means ask him for something. I’m not a “gimme” lady. I’ll discover a strategy to get it myself.
It’s starting (I suppose it all the time has) to trouble me that he asks me for cash (he doesn’t ask for anything). I don’t know find out how to inform him I want he wouldn’t try this and to ask certainly one of his wealthy associates as an alternative.
How can I rectify this dilemma I’ve created for myself?
— UNEASY IN MARYLAND
DEAR UNEASY: In case you are asking sincerely find out how to rectify this unlucky state of affairs, cease texting him and don’t ship him one other penny!
In the event you observe this recommendation, I promise this gamer will disappear like a wisp of smoke as soon as he realizes the cash tree has wilted. You’ve been had, my pricey. I hope it wasn’t for greater than you could possibly afford.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
