DEAR MISS MANNERS: What’s the correct strategy to exit a church on the finish of a service?
My boyfriend thinks that you could let everybody within the adjoining pew (the one nearer to the doorways) exit earlier than you do.
I view it extra like a avenue intersection, however much less formal, the place teams of individuals take turns exiting.
In my opinion, you shouldn’t attempt to rush, bump or push folks out of the way in which, however you must also float and never maintain folks up.
My boyfriend thought I used to be very impolite, and berated me within the parking zone, as a result of I didn’t let the entire folks within the subsequent pew exit first. As an alternative, I adopted the girl in entrance of me. She had invited the folks within the different pew to go first, however they mentioned no, waving her forward. I adopted her out with out stopping to ask the identical folks to exit first.
Was I impolite?
GENTLE READER: Miss Manners agrees that if somebody asks folks to go forward, then the request needs to be obeyed, as it could masks a necessity for extra time to disembark. You’d hardly need to get right into a pushing match in church with an aged couple by insisting that you’re not going anyplace till they get a transfer on.
Why you’ll need a boyfriend who berates you is one other query.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My boyfriend and I share an condominium, and likewise share two pet snakes.
These are usually not massive reptiles, and are saved in very safe glass tanks behind closed doorways.
We perceive that many individuals are usually not comfy with reptiles, so we by no means allow them to roam across the condominium. If now we have firm, we by no means convey our pets out and even open the door to that room; they keep utterly out of sight. We might by no means presume to power anybody to work together within the slightest with an animal that prompted them anxiousness.
The issue is that my boyfriend’s father is so afraid of snakes that he won’t even set foot within the condominium, although they’re securely contained and never seen.
I’d love to have the ability to entertain his household in our dwelling, however his father is adamant that he won’t come over till the snakes are now not there.
Is it impolite of us to persist in consuming meals at their home after which not reciprocating? We’re younger and broke, so entertaining them in a restaurant is just not an actual chance. Do now we have to eliminate two pets with the intention to fulfill his father?
GENTLE READER: What you want is a mutual settlement on how you’ll reciprocate their hospitality. Would your boyfriend’s dad and mom, for instance, be amenable to having you typically put together and convey a meal to them?
Certainly that’s preferable to discovering various dwelling preparations for Antony and Cleopatra.
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