DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend and I made a decision to interrupt up. It was mutual.
We each had our personal grievances, and, in my view, we’d hit our peak. I don’t suppose staying collectively any longer would’ve made an ideal distinction for both of us.
Issues bought sophisticated as a result of we lived collectively in a two-bedroom condo. To be amicable, I supplied to take the visitor bed room and keep out of her hair till our lease was up.
She blew up and stated she’d somewhat us not reside collectively after breaking apart. She stated one month must be sufficient time for me to discover a new place.
For context, I’ve paid our full hire, fortunately, for the previous 12 months and a half, so sure, I believe her suggestion is ludicrous and unfair.
I really feel betrayed. How do I cause with somebody like this?
— Ultimatum
DEAR ULTIMATUM: It’s time so that you can develop a spine. Kindly however firmly inform your ex that she has two selections: She will be able to transfer out now or as quickly as she will be able to, or she will be OK with you being within the visitor room.
Remind her that you’ve got paid to your residence the whole time the 2 of you will have lived there. Sure, you probably did it fortunately, however now that you’re parting methods, you’re unwilling to inconvenience your self on account of her discomfort with the residing state of affairs.
Issues may get hostile for a bit, however she wants to grasp that you’re not a pushover.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I simply completed studying the letter from “Bad Referral,” the reader whose residence renovation work was left unfinished by a contractor.
The Higher Enterprise Bureau is a good suggestion, however they’re fairly toothless if the contractor received’t reply. My suggestion is to contact the state’s legal professional basic’s workplace or examine the state’s web site and report this contractor.
They is probably not the one victims, and if they’ve the proof, I’d significantly take into consideration taking this fella to small claims court docket or contacting a lawyer. What he has finished is prison.
— Nameless
DEAR ANONYMOUS: Your letter represents the emotions of many readers who warned that the Higher Enterprise Bureau may very well be a useless finish however the state legal professional’s workplace may yield outcomes. Thanks.
DEAR HARRIETTE: In reply to “Bad Referral,” concerning a shoddy window set up job, you forgot to inform them to achieve out to their native contractors’ board.
I can assure you that, if the installer had a license, the board will certainly come down on them in the event that they wish to maintain it! In any other case, it might presumably root out an unlicensed contractor.
A whole lot of occasions, the explanation they provide such a screaming deal is as a result of they don’t seem to be licensed. We’ve had that occur quite a bit right here in Las Vegas. If they don’t seem to be licensed, the contractor’s board will go after them with prison complaints and liens towards something that they personal to get better for the complainants.
— Truth Verify
DEAR FACT CHECK: Sure, that is one other sensible option to retaliate when a contractor cheats and steals cash.
If you end up in an identical place, search for the official arbiters of requirements for that business that will help you maintain folks’s ft to the hearth.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist folks entry and activate their desires. You may ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
