DEAR MISS MANNERS: Self-service fountain machines at pizza parlors and delis have the completely different sugary sodas labeled with large buttons, whereas there are sometimes smaller “water” and “soda” buttons beneath.
I’ve at all times believed that the aerated water distributed by the “soda” button continues to be simply water, which means I can replenish a cup without cost. In spite of everything, it isn’t on the menu for buy. Is my assumption right?
My accomplice says that that is stealing and I must pay for it.
I as soon as requested on the register to verify this was OK, and the younger man there stated “sure.” However at lunch at a unique restaurant, I stated I used to be going to get some soda and my accomplice stated, “OK, if you want to steal it” — proper in entrance of the proprietor, who was strolling by our desk.
I don’t determine as a thief, and I felt harm.
Is there one thing I’m overlooking? Ought to I ask every time, at every restaurant? Or is my assumption OK that aerated or not, water continues to be water? I do acknowledge that the soda button makes use of a small quantity of the aeration cartridge shared by the opposite drinks.
I’m glad to alter my observe and ask every time, however now I’m simply irritated with my accomplice and digging in my heels. Please weigh in.
GENTLE READER: The argument that compels Miss Manners probably the most is that soda water will not be in any other case on the menu. Is that this true for each institution? That may be the query to ask: “May I have a cup for soda water, or is that something I can purchase from you?”
You then have full permission to offer a smug, glad smile to your accomplice when the reply is in your favor. Offered you continue to wish to dine with somebody who has been calling you a thief.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I used to be born a pure redhead. However because the years glided by, my hair colour pale away, and now I want further assist from my beautician to maintain my hair pink.
My whole life, strangers have requested me, slightly regularly, if pink is my pure colour. Now, I really feel inclined to elucidate that it as soon as was, however that I presently dye it. Nonetheless, that feels awkward and pointless.
What would you recommend I say when somebody asks me this very direct query?
GENTLE READER: “My hair is naturally red.” This isn’t solely technically truthful, however extra importantly, succinct.
You don’t owe anybody, a lot much less impertinent strangers — and it’s certainly impertinent to ask somebody such a personal query — an in depth confessional.
Miss Manners will depart it as much as you should you really feel compelled to expose the entire reality to your folks — however she holds out hope that your folks are too well mannered to ask. Or already know the reply.
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