DEAR ABBY: Two and a half years in the past, I bought a starter bike and allowed somebody I thought of to be an excellent good friend to journey it across the block.
She fell in love with it and expressed that she would like to have it. I made an settlement along with her that once I upgraded, I’d promote her that bike.
A 12 months later, I used to be in a position to buy the one I wished. I discovered what the trade-in worth for my unique bike would have been and agreed to promote it to my good friend at that value. I informed her then to pay me as she was in a position, and I signed the title over to her.
I didn’t draw up any invoice of sale or contract. I now understand this will have been naive on my half.
Shortly after taking possession, she had an accident and totaled the bike. Her insurance coverage didn’t pay, and she or he has employed a lawyer, saying it was the opposite individual’s fault.
She has paid not one cent towards the bike, and even acknowledged that she owes me something for it.
I battle with confrontation, so I’ve but to say something, however a 12 months and a half later, I feel the time has come. I do know legally there isn’t a lot I can do, however I wish to say one thing to her.
How can I handle this with out coming throughout as being tough? We’ve grown aside however are nonetheless pleasant.
— BIKER CHICK IN TEXAS
DEAR BIKER CHICK: Do this: “It has been a year and a half since I sold you the bike. When do you plan to start paying me what we agreed upon?” It’s a reputable query.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my girlfriend, “Kim,” for a 12 months and a half. We’re each in our 40s and really impartial.
Her mom struggles with our relationship as a result of we’re two girls. She has informed Kim our relationship is a humiliation for her. She didn’t know her daughter is a lesbian till we started seeing one another.
Kim’s mom has mentioned that if I have been a person, she can be thrilled. She is aware of I like her daughter and deal with her nicely, however she will’t recover from the truth that we’re homosexual.
I’m perplexed about what to do. Our relationship is secure, and we’re each pleased, however this bothers each of us.
I don’t need Kim to really feel torn between her mom and me, particularly since we’re discussing marriage. Is there something I can do to ease the stress?
— LOOKING FOR PEACE IN KENTUCKY
DEAR LOOKING: There’s little to nothing you’ll be able to (or ought to) do to ease Kim’s mom’s embarrassment.
Mother and father have all kinds of goals and ambitions the place their kids are involved, however within the closing evaluation, grownup kids should dwell their very own lives as they see match.
A longtime, trusted group referred to as PFLAG exists for the exact objective of constructing bridges between LGBTQ people and their relations. You will discover it at pflag.org.
Nonetheless, till Kim’s mom is keen to hunt assist to regulate to actuality, there’s nothing you or Kim can do apart from let your pleased life collectively be an instance.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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