DEAR ABBY: I had been creating emotions for my co-worker/boss. I believed these emotions might have been reciprocated.
Then, I used to be fired due to a battle with one other co-worker. This occurred greater than a month in the past.
I nonetheless take into consideration the man once in a while. I want to attain out and let him know, with out it being embarrassing or seeming creepy, however I’m unsure how. I actually care about him.
— FORMER EMPLOYEE IN CONNECTICUT
DEAR FORMER EMPLOYEE: In case your emotions in your former boss had been reciprocated, he can be reaching out to you, which hasn’t occurred.
That mentioned, for those who’d like one other dialog with him, contact him and ask if he’s prepared to be a job reference if he’s contacted by any potential employers.
DEAR ABBY: I haven’t had a vacation with my grown daughter, “Charly,” since she left the state 12 years in the past.
When she got here out as a lesbian, I wasn’t very accepting and didn’t deal with it nicely. I’ve since apologized.
Charly and her accomplice refuse to go to right here except I permit them to share the identical mattress in my home. I say they will’t inform me what to do in my own residence, simply as I can’t inform them what to do in theirs.
I stayed with them as soon as, and so they slept in the identical mattress. Now they not invite me to remain there.
Charly advised me her accomplice is uncomfortable with anybody staying there.
I haven’t spoken to my daughter about their relationship in a few years. My coronary heart is damaged.
I don’t get any holidays with them, however her accomplice’s dad and mom are there yearly and reside within the subsequent neighborhood. I don’t perceive. Any options?
— MISSING HER IN TEXAS
DEAR MISSING HER: I do have one. If the three of you possibly can determine to be civil with one another throughout a go to, inform your daughter you’ll be prepared to remain in a lodge whilst you’re there.
Frankly, it could be extra comfy for everybody if they comply with it.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be married for 19 years. We’re divorced and haven’t any contact. Divorce was a good selection.
Now, two years later, I’m in love with a brand new man whom I’ll name “Grayson.” We have now been collectively for 4 months, and issues are going very well.
Grayson is light and loving in each respect. He’s the one man who has by no means raised his hand to me. We do loads collectively and by no means argue. We each work.
We have now talked about marriage. I’ve met his household, and I used to be simply accepted.
Is that this destiny, future, and may I say sure?
— STRUGGLING WITH LOVING A MAN
DEAR STRUGGLING: As a result of you’ve got a historical past of selecting males who’ve “raised a hand to you,” let me advise you that you just and Grayson are within the honeymoon section of your relationship. It’s slightly early to be speaking about marriage.
Whether or not that is destiny or future, I can’t opine. As as to if it is best to say sure, assuming he has proposed, you’ll be clever to have a lengthy engagement to be completely certain that light, loving Grayson is strictly who he appears to be.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
