DEAR ABBY: My husband requested me to enter his e mail inbox and settle a difficulty with an airline. An e mail popped up: “your memories from eight years ago” from a photograph web site.
We have now been collectively eight years, and I believed I’d see pictures of us.
They weren’t. They have been pictures of him together with his ex-fiancee, together with his elaborate proposal. The proposal was one thing out of a dream. (He proposed to me on our household room sofa.) I additionally realized her ring is strictly like mine.
I’m so harm. He has by no means been that romantic with me or put a lot thought into my items. Really, one yr he gave me mattress sheets for Christmas, which I by no means requested.
In the meantime, I’m the one who places effort into his household’s playing cards and items and helps them with celebrations.
My birthday was this month — I’m eight months pregnant and I had to pick and purchase my very own birthday reward as a result of he mentioned he didn’t know what to get me.
Once I let him know the way harm I really feel about the whole lot, he mentioned, “Let me just go back in time,” and walked away.
I really feel harm, caught and unloved. Am I overreacting?
— CRUSHED IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR CRUSHED: I perceive your disappointment, however my recommendation is to revisit this topic after your youngster is born and you’ve got had extra time to consider it.
I don’t know what occurred together with your husband’s prior relationship, but when it had been terrific, it might have lasted.
Not all males are good at planning proposals or selecting playing cards and items, however typically they make up for it in different methods. Bide your time.
DEAR ABBY: My pricey good friend “Sandra” is married with two youngsters. She and her husband have a 4-year-old son collectively and one other son from her husband’s first marriage who’s 14.
The 14-year-old’s life is hard, very similar to Cinderella’s. Sandra treats him very badly. She has him doing all the home tasks of their residence, belittles him continuously and could be very vocal about how a lot she dislikes him. Her 4-year-old can do no flawed.
The older boy’s mom has weekends together with her son, however Sandra is open about not liking her both.
I really feel dangerous about how the boy is handled and wish to discuss to Sandra about it, however I don’t know tips on how to convey up the delicate topic and preserve my relationship with the household.
Her husband is totally on Sandra’s facet, so he does nothing to assist the boy have a greater life.
Are you able to provide any recommendation?
— FEELING FOR HIM IN WASHINGTON
DEAR FEELING: Someone has to intervene for that boy.
Why does his uncaring father have custody? Might he keep together with his mom full time? Are there every other kinfolk who might take him in? And why would you desire a relationship with a heartless couple who’re so emotionally abusive?
Since you apparently are the one one that cares in any respect about that boy, perform a little analysis about attainable different conditions for him. Nonetheless, if there are none, contact youngster protecting companies as a final resort. You received’t save your friendship with Sandra, however you might save that youngster.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
