DEAR ABBY: I’m a single, never-married man. I used to be having bother discovering a pleasant girl thus far, so I purchased a T-shirt from a relationship web site to indicate the ladies on the grocery and {hardware} shops that I’m single and in search of a date.
I now have a brand new downside — ladies on the ironmongery store and grocery shops maintain coming as much as me, asking about my shirt and making an attempt to get a date with me.
I’m grateful for it, though I’m having bother deciding which one I wish to exit with. How do I inform those I’m not eager about that I’m busy or seeing another person? They don’t wish to take no for a solution.
— FLOODED IN FLORIDA
DEAR FLOODED: Cease saying no so rapidly. If you’re in search of somebody particular, you’ll need to do some sifting. As you’ll uncover, relationship is a technique of trial and error. It’s possible you’ll discover your style in ladies will change for those who expertise a number of of them (or extra).
P.S. I’m sorry you didn’t point out which web site you acquire that T-shirt from. Do in addition they are available in ladies’s sizes?
DEAR ABBY: My partner and I are retired and on Social Safety. We’ve each labored onerous all our lives and are content material residing a modest retirement.
Our home is paid for, and now we have little debt. Nonetheless, we’re each experiencing bodily and psychological decline. I fear about our home. We aren’t in a position to clear and keep it like we used to due to our bodily limitations.
We used to have events, however we’re embarrassed to have folks over now, which implies we’re form of remoted.
We additionally fear that our Social Safety and Medicare advantages shall be stripped away. We depend on them to reside. We each paid into the system since age 15. Shouldn’t we anticipate to reap the advantages of paying into the system all these years?
We fear on a regular basis in regards to the future, which appears so grim proper now. Even when we are able to survive the following few years, I’m more and more involved in regards to the disintegration of our residence.
I’m not positive the place to show. Any concepts could be significantly appreciated.
— WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE
DEAR WORRIED: If there’s a senior middle in your neighborhood, attain out and ask if there are any companies that would help you to find fairly priced assist with your home.
As to your embarrassment about entertaining associates, that concern could also be useless. If you’d like firm, invite associates over for afternoon tea, a picnic or a barbecue exterior if the climate permits.
Relating to your nervousness about Social Safety, you’re removed from alone in feeling nervous. Roughly 70 million American seniors are worrying proper together with you. Each senior ought to be writing to their native politicians, their state representatives, congresspersons and senators reminding them that these advantages have been paid for and, if they’re interfered with, it may value them the following election.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
