DEAR ABBY: I’m a 47-year-old male who’s 20 days from being divorced.
For the previous three months, I’ve been courting a lady I’ve recognized for 26 years. We love one another and plan to be married.
We’ve nice occasions after we are collectively however wrestle on the cellphone or with texting. I’m unsure why that is, however she says it’s as a result of we must be collectively on a regular basis.
We typically see each other on weekends. She says she has a troublesome time and cries loads after I’m not round. My query is, is that this regular? If I don’t see her for 2 days, she gushes that she “missed me so much,” whereas I miss her, but it surely’s not a giant deal to me.
We aren’t married now so I’m not in that way of thinking till we’re. What can we do?
— NAVIGATING LOVE IN FLORIDA
DEAR NAVIGATING: What your girl good friend is telling chances are you’ll seem to be a protestation of devotion, but it surely may as an alternative be a pink flag. Her discomfort at being aside may finally grow to be smothering. She’s clearly emotionally needy.
Though you’ve gotten mentioned marriage, please ensure the 2 of you’ve gotten premarital counseling earlier than proposing something greater than a heat friendship.
DEAR ABBY: How does one overcome a concern of heights?
I’ve had it from the time I used to be slightly lady. There was a bridge I needed to cross strolling dwelling from college. I needed to look down at my toes to cross it.
I not too long ago bought a condominium on the sixteenth flooring in a high-rise constructing. I like the view, however I’m too afraid to stroll out on my balcony. How do I overcome this?
— UP HIGH IN GEORGIA
DEAR UP HIGH: You might be removed from the one one that has a concern of heights. Contemplate putting in some waist-high vegetation in entrance of the patio railing. This may occasionally will let you get pleasure from your view with out your knees wobbling. Should you do that, don’t look straight down. (I converse from expertise.)
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been slightly unhappy currently. The reason being that my greatest good friend is performing bizarre. It makes me marvel if our friendship is slowly going away.
All through our friendship, we have now all the time jokingly made enjoyable of one another. Recently, plainly something I say makes it awkward, and he or she hasn’t been wanting to speak to me as usually or performing the identical manner she did earlier than.
I’m afraid we aren’t going to be mates for much longer, which scares me.
How do I repair our friendship with out asking for it upfront and with out being bizarre?
— HER BESTIE IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR BESTIE: You could be scared, however the one manner you could possibly restore your friendship is to inform her how you feel.
Since you sense she is distancing herself, you don’t have anything to lose and all the things to achieve by being trustworthy. A method to begin the dialog could be to ask if you might have offended her in a roundabout way along with your jokes as a result of, if you happen to did, they weren’t meant to be hurtful.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
