DEAR ABBY: I just lately obtained a voicemail from my brother that recorded a dialog he was having together with his spouse.
It was clear he didn’t know he had by accident dialed my cellphone throughout this dialog. It was an argument, which lasted two minutes earlier than there was a pause within the dialog and he hung up.
I haven’t addressed it with him but as a result of I’m shocked at my sister-in-law’s conduct throughout this dialog, and the best way she treats my brother.
I’ve identified for some time that she blames others for conditions she ought to share the blame in, however I had by no means heard her in a non-public dialog till this voicemail.
My brother should know these two minutes stay on my cellphone, though we haven’t spoken about it.
I need to discuss with him and inform him that I heard what she mentioned. I’d like him to know I hope she treats him with respect, and that she sounds ungrateful for all of the laborious work he places in at his job of their one-income family with two youngsters.
How ought to I deal with this?
— OVERHEARD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR OVERHEARD: Discuss to your brother and specific that the battle between him and his spouse was partially recorded in your cellphone. Then inform him you don’t imply to pry, however suppose he and his spouse may gain advantage from marital counseling if they’re each prepared. (I hope he’ll pay attention and have some periods, even when his spouse refuses.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are retired. He sits in his recliner chair all day, daily.
He says he’s “studying his Bible” or watching YouTube movies. He additionally sleeps 12 to 14 hours after he goes to mattress round 8 p.m. most nights.
This has been occurring for no less than a yr, and I’m sick of it. I need a companion to do issues with. Nothing I’ve performed or mentioned motivates him to stand up and transfer.
Since I’m not prepared to simply accept this life-style for myself, I take courses on the Y three to 5 instances per week, go to lunch with mates, learn and attend our neighborhood ebook membership, paint and do crafts, and discuss with or e mail mates. Most nights, I watch TV upstairs on my own.
I’ll as properly be single! Any strategies?
— UNCOUPLED IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR UNCOUPLED: Get that husband of yours to his physician for an intensive bodily and neurological examination.
Folks of all ages want some type of train. When individuals who weren’t sedentary spend all day, daily sitting, it’s harmful to their well being. Your husband might endure from any variety of illnesses, together with despair.
Ensuring he has been checked out might be life altering not just for him but additionally for you.
DEAR ABBY: When the hostess gives you leftovers after a pleasant meal, how a lot do you have to take?
— WONDERING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WONDERING: Don’t be grasping. Depart sufficient meals for different company to take some house if they want, and don’t neglect to do the identical in your hostess.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
